"Sometimes as mortals we take ourselves too seriously, particularly when it comes to our families. We need to remember that mortality is like a dress rehearsal and the next life will be the flawless performance. Satan likes to try to convince women that our actions are somehow solely responsible for the successes or failures of those we love. In reality, outside of myself, nothing I do in life is going to permanently (eternally speaking) damage anyone else, not husband, not children, not friends, not strangers. Even if I do something that causes temporary damage, the Atonement is there to fix the problem for both me and for the person I have hurt.
"To illustrate: a few years ago as I was serving in the Primary presidency in my ward. We had worked really hard to prepare for the sacrament meeting program and had grandiose expectations of greatness. We had a great script. We had lots of practice time. Then came the rehearsal on the Saturday morning before the big day. It was a disaster. I was certain that this would be the first Primary program in the history of Primary programs that would bomb and we were going to ruin sacrament meeting for the rest of forever.
"But the next morning, the program came together with just the right amount of enthusiasm and tenderness. The shy Sunbeams shone brightly, the too-old-for-Primary 11-year-olds bore sincere testimonies. The Spirit in the meeting uplifted everyone in the room and the Primary kids did what Primary kids do by presenting, predictably, the best sacrament meeting of the year. I have to humble myself enough to admit very little of what I did made the difference in the value of the program. It was the purity of the kids that made it work. A wise friend told me that is they way it is every year with the Primary program.
"When we get beyond the veil and get to see this mortal probation in the eternal context, we are going to realize the same is true. Some of our lives, or at least aspects of our lives, are a complete disaster. We have hurt people we love, we have said words we wish we could suck back inside, we have had uncharitable feelings towards people we don't know, we have even served unhealthy meals to helpless children. It is all for our benefit so we can learn what not to do when we get to the opening night performance beyond the veil. The stuff that really matters is in the next life. That is where flawless will really matter, and be possible.
"It is all part of the plan. Heavenly Father knew we would need this dress rehearsal. That is why we are here. The Atonement is infinite and eternal. 'All that is unfair about life can be made right through the Atonement of Jesus Christ' (Preach My Gospel, p. 52)."